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Discovering Assertiveness in Kids’ Enchanting World

With this AtoZchallenge 2019, I am presenting to you, the fascinating tales of conversations with my kids on the chosen “Smart Behaviors”. The discussion revolved around two things –

  1. What do they know about the chosen Smart Behaviour?
  2. Who have they seen modeling the Smart Behaviours in their teeny weeny world?

However, I can tell you that these discussions are bound to turn into interesting Anecdotes fired by the real characters of their imaginary world of fiction, comics, cartoons, and movies; given the creativity & storytelling skills, my kids possess. So here is to the start of A2Z Challenge 2019.

A – Assertiveness in Communication

A famous saying goes: “Assertiveness is not what you do, it is what you are!”

The Concept:

Assertiveness is the ability to stand up for one’s own or other people’s rights in a calm and a positive way, without being either aggressive, manipulative or passively accepting the ‘wrong’. Assertiveness firmly stands on the values of self-assurance, confidence, a certainty deep within and a beautiful balance outside between one’s own and others’ rights.

Assertiveness means that we live our lives according to our values, not someone else’s. And on the same note, it also means that we live our lives with great respect to others and without being hurtful to others.

The story:
  • Fuli the Lion Guard: An Aggressive Communicator.
Fuli, The Lion guard

Fuli, the lion guard is the tertiary main character in the cartoon show “The Lion Guard”. Fuli is brave, she is clever, she is sometimes rude and very often snaps at her friends. She is seen as a good character who is helpful and kind; however, the way she manages various interactions is not very pleasant and hence my kids bracketed her as an aggressive communicator.

  • Flutter Shy: A Passive communicator.
The Flutter Shy

Flutter shy, the female pony cartoon character in My Little Pony The Friendship magic on Netflix. Flutter shy is an embodiment of shyness, kindness, and empathy. On playing this part, she is often seen to forego her own wishes & desires and is always seen to please others.

  • Mother Gothel of Rapunzel: A manipulative communicator.
Mother Gothel, Tangled

Mother Gothel of Rapunzel in the Disney fairy tale movie Tangled is seen often manipulating and blackmailing Rapunzel with her fake love. She tries to take undue advantage of the princess’ superpowers and scares her with mths & lies about the outside world.

Ryder of Paw Patrol: An Assertive Leader
Rider, Paw Patrol

The 10-year-old boy who leads the pack of pups on different missions is usually seen to be calm and at peace with himself in critical situations and hence is able to take balanced decisions for his team. He communicates assertively and believes in himself and his team capabilities.

So what do we do to become assertive?
  1. Decide our priorities and define our boundaries.
  2. Have clarity, honesty, and calmness inside us when we decide to speak up.
  3. Use “I” statements along with strong words to convey the message.
  4. Manage our body language well – Be confident and have a strong tone of voice, loud enough to make the impact.
  5. Always trust our inner instinct to know when to stop and withdraw.
  6. If need be withdraw with confidence and move on.

 

 

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21 comments

Darshana April 1, 2019 at 6:19 am

You impressed me to the heart. Great intrepretation.

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 1, 2019 at 8:26 am

Thank you, Darshana…It is always a feeling of being on Cloud Nine when your writing strikes the right chord…

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Noor Anand Chawla April 1, 2019 at 7:08 am

Lovely post, and I’m very impressed with the theme you’ve chosen. Especially as it incorporates your children’s views 🙂

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 1, 2019 at 8:26 am

Thank You, Noor! Happy that you liked it!

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Sonia Chatterjee April 1, 2019 at 7:24 am

Such a thoughtful and informative post. You are really going to bring a difference in my parnting approach through your posts.

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 1, 2019 at 8:27 am

Thank You Sonia… That’s a great motivation…. 🙂

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Priyanka Nair April 1, 2019 at 7:37 am

Loved it! Wonferful post!

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 1, 2019 at 8:27 am

Thank You Priyanka 🙂

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Rashi Roy April 1, 2019 at 9:25 am

This is such a wonderful post. Very thoughtful and inspiring. Looking forward to it.

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 2, 2019 at 10:50 am

Thanks rashi

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Vartika Gakhar April 1, 2019 at 11:14 am

Awesome theme and great interpretation. Awaiting more from you.

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 2, 2019 at 10:53 am

Thanks Vartika!

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abhijit April 1, 2019 at 11:52 am

Nice post. It is very important to be assertive.Problem is many a time, as parents we don’t know when to be assertive and how to be assertive.

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 2, 2019 at 10:52 am

Thanks, Sir, And you are so right.. we all are “Work in Progress”. But I love the fact that this generation of kids is more forgiving and generous in accepting that their parents can make mistakes too as compared to us. I took a v long time in life to realize this fact.

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Shubhra Rastogi April 1, 2019 at 7:10 pm

I like the way you have written your post … so simple yet eye-catching.

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 2, 2019 at 10:49 am

Thank u Shubhra…

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Kislaya April 1, 2019 at 8:23 pm

The use of cartoon characters to explain different communication type is very novel indeed! Enjoyed the post thoroughly and have noted such innovative methods for teaching our kids!

https://evergreenleaf.blogspot.com/2019/04/amorphous.html

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singhal.kushal@gmail.com April 2, 2019 at 10:50 am

Thank You Kislaya!

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Neha Sharma April 2, 2019 at 9:05 am

Such a helpful post. It’s important to understand the right meaning of assertiveness.

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kushal April 2, 2019 at 11:22 am

Thank you Neha! Glad you liked it…

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sandeep sharma May 23, 2019 at 10:14 am

I read your posts frequently and I am very glad that you accepted A to Z challenge 2019.

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