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Discovering Good Interpersonal skills with kids

I – Interpersonal Skills

Dictionary says Interpersonal skills refers to the ability to communicate and interact well with other people.

The concept:

Interpersonal skills would involve various aspects of communication:

  • How to express your thoughts & feelings
  • Listening to the said words
  • Listening to the unsaid through the body language.

Trust, Empathy, commitments, bridging the gaps, influencing positively and giving in without giving up are all fundamental pillars of good interpersonal skills. I can’t focus enough on the importance of interpersonal skills in the global society we live in today. Individuals with strong interpersonal skills are excellent team players and can get along very well with others in their professional, social and personal lives ensuring a high probability of personal, relationship and career success.

Great examples by my young kids to understand inter-personal skills better

Lightning Mc Queen in the movie Cars is shown to develop many pillars of the interpersonal skills during the length of the movie. From a phase of indulging in limited communication in the “Radiator Springs, he is shown to develop many intimate relationships, develop trust, demonstrate empathy, and commitment to developing strong relationships as opposed to self-gratification only. It beautifully demonstrates the learning curve of a person moving up on interpersonal skills.

Lightning McQueen
  • Cars movie depicts how Lightening Mcqueen moves up the learning curve of good interpersonal skills.

Sofia the first is a great example of a person who communicates, motivates and takes everyone along on the adventure or the mission in hand. She has good interpersonal skills and develops trust in her relationships.

And now remember the character of Minimus, the Great – a flying horse whom Princess Sofia chooses to be her racing partner in Disney’s Sofia, the First series? The character is always doubtful of his abilities and lacks confidence, is unable to communicate well and take responsibility– it is only Sofia who pushes him to keep performing better.

  • Minimus of Sofia, the first is the perfect example of someone who is low on interpersonal skills. 
How can we coach our kids to develop interpersonal skills?
  1. The first place to start is to awareness. Identify their strengths & opportunity areas.
  2. Communications being the first step towards effective interpersonal skills – we have to start working on their basic skills like listening and verbal communication. Awareness of our emotions and being honest to not mask our true feelings, and communicate those feelings without upsetting the other person are the things that we should focus upon.
  3. Understand and practice non-verbal communication skills with them – primarily body language, facial reactions, tone and voice modulation.
  4. Keeping up to your words, being committed in your agenda are few things that kids imbibe the best while they see their parents model. So here is what we have to do to set great examples for them.

Happy Parenting!

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Abhijit April 10, 2019 at 9:39 am

How to deal with colleagues, juniors and seniors is very important in todays life. One need not be a pushover, or a ruthless tyrant while dealing with people. Ideally, a good communicator should be able to explain his position. At the same time take difficult people along and get their commitment.

Reply April 14, 2019 at 11:13 am

True true true

Suhasini April 10, 2019 at 9:48 am

These are precisely the examples I used with my kid too. What a coincidence

Reply April 14, 2019 at 11:12 am

haha.. we think alike.. 🙂

Sonia Chatterjee April 10, 2019 at 10:32 am

This is such a relevant post in today’s world where understanding verbal communication is as important as picking up cues. Great examples to make the kid understand the importance of mindful behavior.

Reply April 14, 2019 at 11:12 am

Thank you Sonia!

Noor Anand Chawla April 10, 2019 at 6:15 pm

This is one of the hardest skills to teach young children. Thanks for these great examples, I plan to use them!

Reply April 14, 2019 at 11:12 am

Absolutely, you said it right.

Vidhya Thakkar April 10, 2019 at 6:43 pm

Such a wonderful post! A well detailed post

Reply April 14, 2019 at 11:11 am

Thank you Vidhya!

Shubhra Rastogi April 11, 2019 at 6:28 am

These are some great tips on how we can inculcate interpersonal skills in children, which is an essence of the hour these days.

Reply April 14, 2019 at 11:11 am

Thanks Shubhra!


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